Woman Up!

And I mean it. Not Man up, WOMAN up! Be a real woman and set some standards. Stick to them. Work on your self-esteem please. Where am I going with this right?

Cheating. Particularly men cheating. It's almost laughable, the fact that it is a given...it will go down. My girlfriends go through it, my sisters, myself, my mother. As a recently single woman, I'm feeling discouraged. In the last 5 months I have been approached by many men. 2 (TWO) of them have been single! And the crazy 2010 part of this game that has me totally thrown is that the rest of them didn't even try to lie about it! They don't even lie about it anymore ladies! My friend Krys and I are like 'whoa'. They say things like 'oh I thought you knew'. ??? How?

But I digress....back to my point. This cheating thing is age old. It ain't going anywhere. Why? Not just because men will do it, but because WOMEN WILL CONTINUE TO LET THEM. LET THEM. LET THEM. LET THEM. LET THEM. LET THEM. LET THEM. Get it? At this point, it IS our fault girls. We are teaching these men how to treat us. They will get away with only what we allow them to get away with. My dear ladies let me clue you into something ----- WE have the juice. Ok? WE have the power. This cycle has got to stop. Woman fall in love, man cheats, woman stays, man cheats again, woman hurts and resents and stays, man cheats again because the atmosphere at home is no longer exciting and loving and she's bitter and man loves new woman's energy and old woman has low self-esteem now, oh and new woman has low-self esteem because the new man said he has a woman but I like you better but because new woman's man cheated too her self-worth is compromised so she accepts the taken man and the old woman wont let him go so he wont leave but he'll continue to cheat because she's so miserable at home.....whuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhh - wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew. I just exhaled.

My point is this: Practice saying 'no'. Everytime we say 'no' to a married man or a taken man, we just took away another opportunity to cheat. IF every woman did this, who's left to cheat with. There have to be some standards set. Believe or not, men want you to have them. I truly don't even believe they're enjoying how easy it's become for them. Women, we are the mothers of civilization. WE birth and raise our men. We hold down our households emotionally. We are the backbone. We are strong. Women, FIND YOUR STRENGTH. Pray on it. Work on your self-esteem. I believe it begins and ends right there! Love yourself more than that married or taken man. Respect that man's woman more than you respect those 'sweet nothings'. Sure, you don't know her, but she could be you. Get into it.

Ok last thought....stop saying "there are no good men out there". Don't believe the hype. This thinking will keep you shackled in bitter resentment and will encourage diminished standards. Instead, be a better woman. How about that. Stop worrying about these men and BE A BETTER WOMAN. Be healthy spiritually, emotionally, physically. Walk with confidence. Smile and stop frowning. Speak to other women when you pass. Yes, men have issues. But the blame game is played. WOMAN UP!

-ttyl